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Alrighty! Pilica here, 22, from Switzerland, feel free to ask me anything about myself!

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goropancakechi -

"I broke up with them because we never argue"

I.

I don't even know what to say to that.


pilica-nevarya -

I think that's highkey the same mentality of "you need arguments to keep your relationship spicy/interesting" and like "arguments are GOOD and HEALTHY for a relationship". Like... I actually got into an argument about THAT with someone because my s/o and I NEVER argue. We have discussions, sometimes less, sometimes more lively. But we never argue. Honestly in my eyes this shows the mutual respect we have. Because when you argue in my opinion you just want to crash the other with your opinion. It doesn't even really matter if your right or wrong sometimes. You just want to win. Meanwhile when you discuss both get to say their part and you can work out something on equal grounds and there's no need for anyone to start shouting or get personal or whatever.

So yeah: Thinking that arguments are something good and healthy and a must have... I'd recommend such people taking a step back and actually thinking abou what they say.



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I never got this either. Maybe I was just lucky because I have two parents who have been married for 30 years and, I shit you not, have never ever fought in any capacity to my knowledge but the idea that you have to argue with your s/o is so fucking flawed, I wanna scream. Your s/o, inho, should be a safe person, your best friend, the one person in this shit fucked world you don't have to worry about strifing with. But maybe that's just me (I say with an infinite amount of sarcasm).


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"Too good to be true" Well it ain't true anymore because they blew it.


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Absolutely! And I don't say that if you argue once your relationship is shitty. Arguments can happen. But if your relationship is more arguing than anything that's another story.


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"but i need to make scenes and be yelled at!! how else am i going to have fun??"


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I 100% agree with you!


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Coming out of the grave to say ur right and u should say it


pilica-nevarya reblogged this post from goropancakechi:

I think that's highkey the same mentality of "you need arguments to keep your relationship spicy/interesting" and like "arguments are GOOD and HEALTHY for a relationship". Like... I actually got into an argument about THAT with someone because my s/o and I NEVER argue. We have discussions, sometimes less, sometimes more lively. But we never argue. Honestly in my eyes this shows the mutual respect we have. Because when you argue in my opinion you just want to crash the other with your opinion. It doesn't even really matter if your right or wrong sometimes. You just want to win. Meanwhile when you discuss both get to say their part and you can work out something on equal grounds and there's no need for anyone to start shouting or get personal or whatever.


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